Prolonged singleness can seem like the magic of being sawn in half with no obvious wounds. It is like a cut that hurts, but does not bleed. It is like falling from a great height with only internal injuries. Prolonged singleness is a loss that is not a loss, a …
It is not just the earth that responds to the coming of spring—my soul too rises. Paul wrote in 2Corinthians 2:14 that, “through us” God “spreads everywhere the fragrance of the knowledge” of Christ. If only this were more than theoretically true. If only we could blossom as the flowers do. …
For the single, ambiguous loss takes the form of longing for a person who is not there, and a family that does not (as yet) exist. The divorced single must face both the longing for what might be and the sorrow of what might have been. Both share the sorrow that is not only difficult to define, but difficult to resolve, a loss that is difficult to mourn—a loss that is not a loss.